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My Mom Was Right

Since ages, we have been hearing maa hamesha Sahi hoti hai (mom is always right). As a child I grew up hearing this sentence and always thought what crap. But as time passed by I only realised how right she was when she said things.

One patent dialogue by my mom is unforgettable “ Shadi hogi tab pata chalega.” (You will realise when you get married).

I always argued I have always got the best in life and sasural (in laws) is going to be no different. Thankfully, I have the best sasural but that dialogue is still in my mind. Yes, I realise now how a home maker feels. There were times my mom cooked food and we simply said we don’t want to eat because the cooked food was not our taste or we ate out and forgot to inform mom. (By we I mean my brother and me). Now I understand how it feels when my husband or any other family member does that.

Her second favourite dialogue was “Bache bade karna aassan nai.” ( Its not easy to bring up children).

This is like a fact I agree to 6778890% . Yes, motherhood is beautiful but it’s not easy. I realise now how bad my mom might have felt when I argued with her in situations where she was right or disrespected her. I realise it thinking how would I feel if my son would do this to me. Each day of bringing up a child is totally different and in itself a new experience.

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The lesson learnt is no matter what you feel & whatever is your age ; never take your mother for granted & never ever ignore their favourite dialogues coz they come out to be true (LOL) .After all experience counts.

“Wisdom lies in the right use of knowledge” quotes – Charles Spurgeon

This post is a part of a blog train organised by Elina Wadia where 20 Indian moms have some together to write on how their own mothers were right! To read her article on the same topic click here.

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Breastfeeding – How to Get it Right?

Breastfeeding is a beautiful experience and I always wanted to breastfeed my baby. I am thankful to God as I never faced any issues in producing milk. But there are moms who do face such issues.

Each mom who faces issues with producing milk might have googled n number of times to find what can work for producing more milk.

I am no doctor or nutritionist to suggest you what can work for you. But I would like to share what worked for me. This should help you stay positive and give it your best.

  • Talking to the baby:

As soon as I got pregnant with K, I started talking to him. Though I never got any response, it was beautiful time we spent with each other. Post bath when I applied moisturiser on my pregnant belly was the time I never missed talking to him. This is when I kept saying to both the baby and me that s/he was going to be exclusively breastfed for first 6 months of life and post that till we can manage. This doesn’t help produce milk but it made me strong each day and I was more positive.

  • Eating lots of protein:

I had a lot of protein rich food during my pregnancy. My doctor had given me a protein powder which I hated but he warned me saying I will have to be admitted to take protein injections. For God sake, who wants to go and stay in a hospital, I better take my protein powder. This protein powder went on till K was majorly on breastmilk .i.e. till 9 months of life.

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5 parenting learning of this year

 


Its been only 17 months that I have been a mom but parenting has taught me a lot personally. Everyday experiences has helped me improve each passing day in my parenting journey too.

I thought of sharing with you all this years learnings:

1. Be Patient:

All through my life I was an impatient being. Just can’t think of waiting and going slow. I want everything done quick and fast. This cute little baby has taught me you need to be patient to deal with me 🤦🏻‍♀️. I will fall sick, I will throw tantrums and there is no way u can get through this. Patience is the only way out.

2. Be soft:

There are times when I have given up and actually yelled and told my boy, ‘I told you not to do it, why did you?’ This has come back to me as he also yells when he sees us yelling. So to teach him to be soft I will have to be a role model. (Kindly don’t judge me for this #momslife)

3. Spend quality time:

Yes, this is the most important part of life. He has demanded that time from me and now I see to it that I give him minimum one hour of undivided attention to him. I am also trying to have some good quality time with DH.

4. Moving outdoors:

There are days when I feel too lazy and don’t want to step out of the house. But this little guy pulls me to the parks and this leaves me fresh and energetic. He has taught me how important it is to breathe outside air.

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5. Follow a rhythm :

Mr.K has a rhythm and does everything everyday around the same time. When there is change he gets disturbed and this has taught me how our body moves into a rhythm and how difficult it is to accept a change.

6. Learning happens with mess:

Over the course of 17 months, I have learnt that children love doing mess and they learn a lot through it. Mr.K loves eating food by himself. This creates a lot of mess but he has almost learnt to eat with spoon. I am sure he will master it very soon.

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7. Let them get accustomed to:

Kids love going outdoors. There have been times when we have avoided restaurants and instead ordered food at home. Reason being he never allowed us to sit comfortably and eat. But some recent visits to the restaurants have made me feel that the more often I take him, the more accustomed he will be to the environment. This goes for social gatherings too, the only thing is I have to keep running behind him.

You may also like to read Road trip with babies : Tips and Tricks

What has been your learning this year?

 

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COMFORT OR COURAGE – what to choose when travelling with a baby?

I am a social being. I would go mad if I had not meet people. To keep my urge of socialising going, I meet people and travel to places with friends and family.

We all know parenting dramatically changes our life. However, we need to keep it going and   so we planned to travel with our boy this vacation and noticed how the plans kept changing, keeping him in mind.

Planning a travel is so much fun. We had our vacation planned up quite well. I had gathered a lot of courage and planned an 8/10 hours of road trip to Gujarat. The couple who were accompanying us came with one other exciting travel plan.

The new plan was to travel to one of the cold places in the North. This excited me as I have never witnessed mountains with snow or for that matter even a snow fall. I wanted to go but I was constantly thinking if I will be able to do a comfortable vacation with my boy to such a place.

I asked several friends and took their view points. Most of them asked me to go ahead with the plan. Some asked me to think over the travelling time and cold temperature there. This left me thinking.  After considering suggestions of my friends and a final discussion with my husband we finally gave up. I didn’t have the courage to travel with my 1 year old to a place so cold and neither I wanted to travel with him in the ghats.

We chose comfort over courage this time and didn’t go ahead with the plan. But thankfully we worked out something and are travelling to Udaipur now.

Why I chose to go to Udaipur?
  • It is a plateau. So, travelling will be easier as compared to the mountains.
  • the climate of the place when I visit will be quite pleasant, so that’s an advantage.
  • It’s quite close to Mumbai, so travelling time won’t be much.
  • Travelling is never done free. Some good offers attracted us to visit the city.

 

So at the end, you can choose either courage or comfort when travelling with a baby.

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My Conception News Story

http://peanutbutterplayers.com/the-best-christmas-pageant-everholiday-show-2017/ Mr. K took good time to select us as his parents. Yes, we waited for 22 months before we could conceive this little man. 

While, I was going to the doctor and doing follow ups to conceive naturally, there was a time when the doctor said you may have to get a IVF or IUI. My husband and I were disheartened.  But we thought this way or that way, having a baby was more important. Since we had some trips and a wedding lined up, we thought we would start the process after we finish these.

 

But, God had drawn different map of life for us. I returned from my trips and had a strong feeling that I had conceived. My breasts were sore but the news was not definite. I missed my period. I was excited to check if I was pregnant. But I didn’t as I had failed and cried so many times before. More than me, my husband didn’t want me to check.

This girl wanted to dance in full swing in an event but what if I was pregnant. Its better to check and be safe.I did the home pregnancy test early morning and to my happiness, I saw two faint lines. I came back to my room and slept next to my husband and was thinking of different ways to share the news with him.

 

We woke up and got in to our normal routine. After bath, when he entered the room to change, I couldn’t control but showed him the pregnancy kit, and he didn’t follow a thing but asked me, “What? I had told you, don’t do the test, why did you bla bla bla..” I replied it shows too lines which means we have conceived and we were pregnant. He jumped with happiness, he danced for total 5 mins. I still remember the elation on his face.

 

The twist in the story comes now. We went to the doctor and told him, we had conceived and here is the pregnancy kit that shows it. The doctor asked us to repeat the test and the result came opposite, showing no pregnancy. In my heart, I was sure, the test at the doctor was wrong and that I have conceived but somewhere I was nervous. The doctor asked me to get the blood test done and told me he would call me if at all the report showed pregnancy.

 

I had my routine day. I didn’t have the time to check my phone, while I was at work. but as soon as I left from work and checked my phone, I saw a missed call from the doctor. With bated breath, I called the doctor and received the happy news, I was waiting for.

 

The much awaited phase had arrived in our lives bringing in loads of luv n joy . The feeling of parenthood is difficult to be pen down . It’s a joy that is cherished in your heart and the memories of that joy are always as fresh as a daisy. When we as parents become old n our children adult ; this experience when shared seems like a moment one has just experienced. This is God’s creation.

You may also like to read my conception story Already in my heart someday in my arms: A story of conception

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Socialising after becoming a Parent

If you read my post regularly you might know that I had a beautiful pregnancy. I worked, partied  ( the decent way) till the end of my pregnancy. In fact even four days before delivery I was out socialising with people.

Once,I gave birth to my little boy, I was enjoying my motherhood eternally. I loved changing diapers and nappies every hour. Breast feeding was in itself a beautiful experience.

Few days passed by, our friends started calling my husband and me to join them for dinners and outings. But, we were not prepared, we were not sure to leave our baby home with my mother in law. Although I was sure that she would take care of him just the way she did for her sons and daughter.

We kept denying and saying no to our friends, but somewhere even I was craving to go and meet people. What made me worried was, is motherhood an end to our personal life? Is it the terminal to my social life? But I gave back an answer to myself, I am not going to allow this to happen. I don’t want motherhood to effect my social life.

Soon, we managed things and started meeting people outside. Although we never said a yes to people saying we would join, but always kept the decision to last minute.

So how did we manage?
  1. We left home once, K slept for the night.
  2. I pumped some milk and kept it in the bottle, so that my mil could feed him in my absence in case he wakes up.
  3. We would keep the meetings short.
  4. We always met friends at a place close to our house.
  5. Once my baby completed 4 months of age, I started taking him along with me wherever I could.
  6. I preferred meetings my friends at someone’s place for the comfort of the baby.
  7. Baby carriers was a huge help to me while I shopped in malls.

How did you socialise after having a baby?

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A Mom’s Nostalgia

Pregnancy was the most beautiful episode of my life. Being a new mom was yet again a  pleasing experience.

Parenthood is one toughest hood of life. But there are times when a dad or mom would feel nostalgic about being a parent.

Times when I become nostalgic about my early motherhood phase.

I know its not been many years but only few months since MrK was born but I miss those times when he was in my womb or a new born.

1. Seeing a pregnant mommy, reminds me of the most beautiful phase of my life and yes, I feel like getting pregnant again.

2. A baby wearing mom with a tiny baby makes me sentimental and reminds me when I wore my boy and took long walks everyday.

3. Crawling babies are the cutest. I want to see MrK crawling again.

4. The most beautiful part of being a new mom is breastfeeding. Though, MrK is not weaned but we no more have long sessions of breastfeeding.

5. When a tiny baby tries to creep or glide, it makes me emotional.

6. When a mom struggles to make her baby sleep, I want to tell her hold on, this phase is going to be for a short time, love each moment.

7. Now, I am little crazy, but I miss those cute bums with cloth diapers too as we are in our under pants most of the time.

8. A sleeping baby is the warmest thing. When I see a tiny baby sleep for hours, I want to go and eat them up.

9. When I felt my pregnant friends kicks, I wanted my Sonshine to go back into my tummy and kick.

So to all the pregnant moms and new moms, I know early motherhood ain’t easy but hold on to that time. Soon you will be nostalgic about it.

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Already in my heart someday in my arms: A story of conception

 

Every story ends with a moral, I begin mine with one – there is no battle undying faith and mental positivity cannot win.

Like every other girl, I always wanted to conceive before I turn 25 as its considered the most prevalent age as per the Indian standards. We wanted to go for an international trip before we dive in to parenthood. Everything went as per plan.

Each mother wants to do the best for their baby and that’s when I heard about the Panchakarma (in Ayurvedic medicine) a fivefold detoxification treatment involving massage, herbal therapy, and other procedures). Each massage left me relaxed and rejuvenated. I felt my body was now clean and prepared to welcome the baby.

While I did the Panchakarma the Doctor asked me to do some hormonal tests and it came out to be normal. Which was obvious good news. After all of this we were expecting pregnancy.

While I had baby planning in mind, I kept looking for suggestions and advises from my mommy friends, pregnant friends, online resources, attended some lectures too. I also started reading the Bhagwad Gita. 📖📖.

After 6 months, I attended a shibir conducted by a revolutionary. The experience was seraphic. I felt like staying back there. I was introduced to a more calm, composed, relaxed, aware and sorted version of myself.

The shibir was called ‘One Step Up’ where we were made to understand that we are souls and not the body. I learnt how to be unaffected by others behaviour and more importantly how to lose expectation that is not keep expectation.

I felt ecstatically happy as GOD had the perfect plan for me. He wanted me to become a better me before I become a mother.

My life had changed. My relationships had changed and I was completely different than what I was. I prayed. I followed sahebji.

In all these experiences, I was waiting for the baby to come. But, I think the baby was still selecting its parents but we were patiently waiting. We had faith that it would come to us at the best time.

While I say all this, I must admit I am not GOD and I had my share of days when I felt broken and disheartened.

I was disappointed each month I got my periods. It was even more disheartening to watch my husband disappointed. People very close to us whom we called friends and family only kept asking, WHEN? I answered with a typical VERY SOON.

Months passed by. I was waiting for that moment. Almost everyone around me was aware of my desire to have a baby. I was bombarded with advises and suggestions. Almost everyone asked me to visit their personal gynaecologist.  I respected their opinions and advises, but filtered and kept only the once I liked. (It did not seem like a good idea to visit 10 different Gynaecologist)

 

 

Many of my friends either got pregnant or delivered a baby in this course of time while I was still ‘trying’. I was very happy for them but wanted to hold my baby, the way they held theirs. I had so much to offer my baby, so much to do for her. My mind constantly kept thinking of the different things I could do for the baby.

Some more months passed by.

I visited another Doctor I decided to trust him and have undying faith in him after I consulted him a few times. My heart was convinced that my baby would come to me under this doctors guidance after I cognised that he was a follower of my Gurudev too.

I was convinced that God has the perfect plan and my life was a happy one.

I blindly followed my doctor. Did each test he asked me to do, popped every pill he prescribed.

Since all test reports came out normal, we were expecting to conceive soon.

But some more months passed by.

I’m a very career focused person. I have always aspired to grow professionally and create my own identity.  In all of these a friend who is into meditation asked me to focus on something I really desired and not both. I made up my mind and put forth my resignation. Due to some legal constraints, I couldn’t leave my job.

But where there is a will there is way. What I did now was commanded my mind and soul to quit stress about work and take it easy!

I also did a lot of meditation. Learnt several techniques. Yes, spirituality with mediation works wonders.

I heard all the positive affirmations for conceiving in my own voice every night before I slept.

It’s not that I didn’t lose my mind sometimes. I cried, I was depressed, I was low but positivity got be back.

There were days when I almost gave up.  I though motherhood was not for me. But my close family and friends assured me that the best is yet to come. I thank them and love them for this. I know there were many who literally prayed for me.

There were days when we both even blamed each other. There were days when he was low and I supported him n there were days when I was low and he cheered me up.

This phase was a difficult, tough one. But I had faith, Somewhere I followed ‘The Secret’.

My arms were still waiting to hold our baby. The doctor told us, the next visit, that IUI/ IVF treatment was the only way out. I was shattered. Even with the thought of it tears started to roll down my eyes. But I explained to myself, this way or the other my baby is destined to come to me. How does it matter? Within a couple of days, I was hopeful again. I asked the doctor for a months’ time before we begin the procedure as I had some trips and a family wedding lined up.

What happened the next month, was magical. The miracle I waited for, was now reality. I skipped a period the next month and was positive on a pregnancy test.

A wait of 22 months, of convincing myself, preparing myself, fighting with myself, had now come to an end. I know women who have waited for much longer. Know there are some still waiting. But I also know we are all destined to receive the best.

I’m sure God has the best plan for you.

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