Since ages, we have been hearing maa hamesha Sahi hoti hai (mom is always right). As a child I grew up hearing this sentence and always thought what crap. But as time passed by I only realised how right she was when she said things.
One patent dialogue by my mom is unforgettable “ Shadi hogi tab pata chalega.” (You will realise when you get married).
I always argued I have always got the best in life and sasural (in laws) is going to be no different. Thankfully, I have the best sasural but that dialogue is still in my mind. Yes, I realise now how a home maker feels. There were times my mom cooked food and we simply said we don’t want to eat because the cooked food was not our taste or we ate out and forgot to inform mom. (By we I mean my brother and me). Now I understand how it feels when my husband or any other family member does that.
Her second favourite dialogue was “Bache bade karna aassan nai.” ( Its not easy to bring up children).
This is like a fact I agree to 6778890% . Yes, motherhood is beautiful but it’s not easy. I realise now how bad my mom might have felt when I argued with her in situations where she was right or disrespected her. I realise it thinking how would I feel if my son would do this to me. Each day of bringing up a child is totally different and in itself a new experience.
The lesson learnt is no matter what you feel & whatever is your age ; never take your mother for granted & never ever ignore their favourite dialogues coz they come out to be true (LOL) .After all experience counts.
“Wisdom lies in the right use of knowledge” quotes – Charles Spurgeon
This post is a part of a blog train organised by Elina Wadia where 20 Indian moms have some together to write on how their own mothers were right! To read her article on the same topic click here.
Its been only 17 months that I have been a mom but parenting has taught me a lot personally. Everyday experiences has helped me improve each passing day in my parenting journey too.
I thought of sharing with you all this years learnings:
1. Be Patient:
All through my life I was an impatient being. Just can’t think of waiting and going slow. I want everything done quick and fast. This cute little baby has taught me you need to be patient to deal with me 🤦🏻♀️. I will fall sick, I will throw tantrums and there is no way u can get through this. Patience is the only way out.
2. Be soft:
There are times when I have given up and actually yelled and told my boy, ‘I told you not to do it, why did you?’ This has come back to me as he also yells when he sees us yelling. So to teach him to be soft I will have to be a role model. (Kindly don’t judge me for this #momslife)
3. Spend quality time:
Yes, this is the most important part of life. He has demanded that time from me and now I see to it that I give him minimum one hour of undivided attention to him. I am also trying to have some good quality time with DH.
4. Moving outdoors:
There are days when I feel too lazy and don’t want to step out of the house. But this little guy pulls me to the parks and this leaves me fresh and energetic. He has taught me how important it is to breathe outside air.
Mr.K has a rhythm and does everything everyday around the same time. When there is change he gets disturbed and this has taught me how our body moves into a rhythm and how difficult it is to accept a change.
6. Learning happens with mess:
Over the course of 17 months, I have learnt that children love doing mess and they learn a lot through it. Mr.K loves eating food by himself. This creates a lot of mess but he has almost learnt to eat with spoon. I am sure he will master it very soon.
Kids love going outdoors. There have been times when we have avoided restaurants and instead ordered food at home. Reason being he never allowed us to sit comfortably and eat. But some recent visits to the restaurants have made me feel that the more often I take him, the more accustomed he will be to the environment. This goes for social gatherings too, the only thing is I have to keep running behind him.
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Child – Rs 600 per day
Adult – Rs 300 per day
Free entry for children below the age of 2
You may visit their website for more details here.
The two-day children’s festival will see special performances by artist and TV personality Rob and singers Arjun Kanungo, Darshan Raval, Akasa Singh, Bhavya Pandit,Vipin Heero and Raaga Trippin. The festival will also include a day care centre, various play areas, a petting zoo, centre for robotics, a curated section for art, craft, science, sport & music workshops, a concert arena, sports arena, and much more; all categorised to suit the needs of different age groups of children. In addition to all these offerings, toons from Sony YAY!, India’s leading kids entertainment channel – Guru Aur Bhole will also be seen engaging with kids at the festival.
Windmill Festival is specially curated for urban families who are always on the look-out for the next opportunity to spend quality time with their children. While the festival has no age limit, the activities are curated to suit the 0-3, 4-7 and 8-14 age group. The key objective of the festival is to give the urban child an outlet to be creative, gain information and get a recreational experience along with an avenue to spend quality time with their parents and friends in an outdoor setting.
Speaking about the genesis of the festival, Mr. Swaroop Banerjee, CEO, Event Capital, said, “The concept of Windmill Festival is something you’ve never seen in India before. We have curated over 50 workshops for children to sample robotics, aeronautics, comic book making, puppetry, storytelling, pottery, charcoal painting and so much more. We want the child to discover his/her innermost passion and work towards developing it. In addition to the workshops, we have a music stage with performances curated for families. We also have a first of its kind petting zoo where children can pet farm animals.”
I am going to be there with my family. Hope to see you all there having some family time.
A big shout out to the Windmill Festival’s community partner JAMMS. Do follow them on social media Facebook,twitter, Instagram and become a part of an awesome mommy community.
In India when we talk about Locks the first brand that comes to our mind is Godrej – a 120 year old leading manufacturer of innovative locking solutions.
on 15th Novemeber, 2017 Godrej Locking Solutions launched a novel campaign #HowsafeAreYou. I attended the panel discussion at their Hubble office, which was a part of the campaign. On this day, the brand also declared this day to be observed as Home Safety day in India.
The main idea behind the campaign and the panelist’s is to create awareness amongst people on home safety and stay alert always.
Amongst the panelist were:
1. Dr. Kaminidevi Bhoir, Honorary Psychiatric Counsellorfor Mumbai Police
2. Vivek Agrawal, veteran crime journalist and author
3. Shyam Motwani, EVP and Head of Business – Godrej Locking Solutions and Systems
4. Prakash N. Borgaonkar, Western Region Head of HelpAge India and a victim of theft over the psyche of a robber.
5. Supreeth Sudhakaran, Victim of burglary.
Some pointers discussed at the panel:
1. Be prepared with the actions to be taken.
2. Be alert who’s around you, what’s happening around you.
3. Robbers thinking starts where our thinking stops, (you may see this in the video). So try and think out of the box when you are thinking about home safety.
4. Learn from others experiences.
5. Support the police by being alert and informing them if you seek anything wrong around you.
6. Senior citizens are the major victims of such accidents. Many senior citizens stay alone and don’t have anyone to talk to, they feel lonely and slowly as per Prakash Borgaonkar they start feeling isolated and start forgetting things. Robbers take advantage of this and make them their target.
7. According to Kaminidevi Bhoir, robbers gets an urge to steal. The act of robbers is a disease and is called Kleptomania. A robber has no conscience while commuting such an act.
8. Vivek Agarwal shared stories of crime and robbery’s with us, where in a 8 month old child was also not left to murder. He said that the robbers are equally scared during the process and are instructed by their team members that if you see any danger, simply finish the danger and hence the infant was also not left. He also shared that there are some woman with their babies moving around on roads asking for clothes. You may bring them home as courtesy and give them clothes. But these women are checking your houses in the mean while and they make signs outside your house either a Trishul or a Swastik, which implies that your house is going to be the victim soon.
9. Supreeth Sudhakaran expressed how he thought it’s all karma, till he actually became a victim of the burglary. He gave us some advises too like not to give your keys to watchman or neighbor. Do not keep you keys in plant pot or under the dust mat outside your houses. Use the best technology of Locks and be safe.
10. Mr. Motwani also enunciated about the best if technology they use and how they are progressing each day with new inventions. He also shared that the price of the highest form of Locks will reduce if the demand increases giving example of the LED lights, urging us to buy the best Locks and not sacrificing on home Safety.
There has been a lot of learning in this session. I propose to all my readers here get in action and be safe than sorry. Be alert abd mindful.
So together with Godrej Locks and our own measures let’s take this ahead and make our homes the safest place.
I have shared some live videos on my Facebook page of the event. You may like to see them here.
Once destroyed, the nature’s beauty cannot be repurchased at any price – Ansel Adams
Yes, and we need to be careful about our Mother Earth and try and use products that are eco-friendly. What are some eco-friendly products that one can use while raising a baby? I would say many. One among the many is cloth diapers.
Many brands have taken the initiative of helping moms raising their baby in a gentle and eco-friendly way. One such brand from the cloth diaper is Fig-O-Honey. I got my hands on their pocket diapers and here is my review for the same.
About the brand:
Fig-O-Honey is a Bangalore based brand that makes eco-friendly cloth diapers in beautiful prints and vibrant colours and is quite a rage among new parents. It was started by Sneha Thakkar, who is an IIT Bombay alumni and worked as a data scientist for over a decade.
Sneha is a mommy to her two little cuties. So, Fig-O-Honey is a brand by a mom for the mom.
Brand claimed features:
– Includes 1 cloth diaper + 1 absorbent insert
– Suitable for babies from 4.5 kg up to 15 kg
– Adjustable snap buttons for S/M/L sizes
– Waterproof, machine & hand washable, breathable
– Comfortable elastic on the leg sides
– Crossover snap buttons for smaller babies
– Hip snap buttons to prevent wing droop
– Outer printed layer: Polyester with waterproof and breathable TPU
– Inner layer: Soft micro suede that wicks moisture away and keeps the baby’s bottom dry and is stain-resistant.
– Insert: Absorbent 3-layer microfiber
I am a social being. I would go mad if I had not meet people. To keep my urge of socialising going, I meet people and travel to places with friends and family.
We all know parenting dramatically changes our life. However, we need to keep it going and so we planned to travel with our boy this vacation and noticed how the plans kept changing, keeping him in mind.
Planning a travel is so much fun. We had our vacation planned up quite well. I had gathered a lot of courage and planned an 8/10 hours of road trip to Gujarat. The couple who were accompanying us came with one other exciting travel plan.
The new plan was to travel to one of the cold places in the North. This excited me as I have never witnessed mountains with snow or for that matter even a snow fall. I wanted to go but I was constantly thinking if I will be able to do a comfortable vacation with my boy to such a place.
I asked several friends and took their view points. Most of them asked me to go ahead with the plan. Some asked me to think over the travelling time and cold temperature there. This left me thinking. After considering suggestions of my friends and a final discussion with my husband we finally gave up. I didn’t have the courage to travel with my 1 year old to a place so cold and neither I wanted to travel with him in the ghats.
We chose comfort over courage this time and didn’t go ahead with the plan. But thankfully we worked out something and are travelling to Udaipur now.
Why I chose to go to Udaipur?
It is a plateau. So, travelling will be easier as compared to the mountains.
the climate of the place when I visit will be quite pleasant, so that’s an advantage.
It’s quite close to Mumbai, so travelling time won’t be much.
Travelling is never done free. Some good offers attracted us to visit the city.
So at the end, you can choose either courage or comfort when travelling with a baby.
Mr. K took good time to select us as his parents. Yes, we waited for 22 months before we could conceive this little man.
While, I was going to the doctor and doing follow ups to conceive naturally, there was a time when the doctor said you may have to get a IVF or IUI. My husband and I were disheartened. But we thought this way or that way, having a baby was more important. Since we had some trips and a wedding lined up, we thought we would start the process after we finish these.
But, God had drawn different map of life for us. I returned from my trips and had a strong feeling that I had conceived. My breasts were sore but the news was not definite. I missed my period. I was excited to check if I was pregnant. But I didn’t as I had failed and cried so many times before. More than me, my husband didn’t want me to check.
This girl wanted to dance in full swing in an event but what if I was pregnant. Its better to check and be safe.I did the home pregnancy test early morning and to my happiness, I saw two faint lines. I came back to my room and slept next to my husband and was thinking of different ways to share the news with him.
We woke up and got in to our normal routine. After bath, when he entered the room to change, I couldn’t control but showed him the pregnancy kit, and he didn’t follow a thing but asked me, “What? I had told you, don’t do the test, why did you bla bla bla..” I replied it shows too lines which means we have conceived and we were pregnant. He jumped with happiness, he danced for total 5 mins. I still remember the elation on his face.
The twist in the story comes now. We went to the doctor and told him, we had conceived and here is the pregnancy kit that shows it. The doctor asked us to repeat the test and the result came opposite, showing no pregnancy. In my heart, I was sure, the test at the doctor was wrong and that I have conceived but somewhere I was nervous. The doctor asked me to get the blood test done and told me he would call me if at all the report showed pregnancy.
I had my routine day. I didn’t have the time to check my phone, while I was at work. but as soon as I left from work and checked my phone, I saw a missed call from the doctor. With bated breath, I called the doctor and received the happy news, I was waiting for.
The much awaited phase had arrived in our lives bringing in loads of luv n joy . The feeling of parenthood is difficult to be pen down . It’s a joy that is cherished in your heart and the memories of that joy are always as fresh as a daisy. When we as parents become old n our children adult ; this experience when shared seems like a moment one has just experienced. This is God’s creation.
If you read my post regularly you might know that I had a beautiful pregnancy. I worked, partied ( the decent way) till the end of my pregnancy. In fact even four days before delivery I was out socialising with people.
Once,I gave birth to my little boy, I was enjoying my motherhood eternally. I loved changing diapers and nappies every hour. Breast feeding was in itself a beautiful experience.
Few days passed by, our friends started calling my husband and me to join them for dinners and outings. But, we were not prepared, we were not sure to leave our baby home with my mother in law. Although I was sure that she would take care of him just the way she did for her sons and daughter.
We kept denying and saying no to our friends, but somewhere even I was craving to go and meet people. What made me worried was, is motherhood an end to our personal life? Is it the terminal to my social life? But I gave back an answer to myself, I am not going to allow this to happen. I don’t want motherhood to effect my social life.
Soon, we managed things and started meeting people outside. Although we never said a yes to people saying we would join, but always kept the decision to last minute.
So how did we manage?
We left home once, K slept for the night.
I pumped some milk and kept it in the bottle, so that my mil could feed him in my absence in case he wakes up.
We would keep the meetings short.
We always met friends at a place close to our house.
Once my baby completed 4 months of age, I started taking him along with me wherever I could.
I preferred meetings my friends at someone’s place for the comfort of the baby.
Baby carriers was a huge help to me while I shopped in malls.
It brings me immense pleasure to share that I, along with 24 other bloggers are celebrating #9daysofwomanhood throughout Navratri. I thank Jasmeet Kaur for introducing me. Read her blog mommyvoyage.I have followed her throughout my pregnancy days and even now.
So I am not disclosing the prompt for today. Read my post and guess the prompt and leave in your comments below.
I have always been an average student all my life. A person who needs preparation, revision and again final touch up for exams. Coming from a family where my mom and dad are educated in Gujarati medium so I could get very little help from my parents in terms of studies. But I had an expert to assist me – Mrs. Aasha Bangera. I am indebted to God to have met her. She is my inspiration, my motivation, saviour and my master. If it would have not been her, I would have not been what I am today. She is my Saraswati (Hindugoddess of knowledge, music, arts, wisdom, and learning)
I met Mrs. Aasha Bangera – Miss thats what I call her, in fact the entire society calls her that, when I was in my 9th grade. From that time till now, she has been my academic helper. Even now when neighbours come to me with doubts and I can’t solve it for them, she stands at help. Not only me, she has lent a helping hand to hundreds of students. She tries to help in all ways possible when its related to education.
Be it school or college admissions, exams or choosing a carrier, she has helped students with everything. She is the one who asked me to give my CET exams for B.Ed. There is no way I can thank her. Thank you is a small word.
Miss has helped many students without taking any charges or taking minimum charges. one amongst these was one of my best friend, she still can’t stop thanking miss for her gratefulness. Mrs. Bangera’s aim is to open a school and teach for free, but till she reaches there she at least wants to reach out to one such child whose education can be done free by her – now who does that, very less people have such big hearts in todays world.
Isn’t she a real Saraswati. At least for me, She is the goddess of knowledge.
At the end, I want to thank you Miss, although thank you just not enough for all that you have done for me till date and hundreds of other students like me. We love you.