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Which baby carrier should I buy? – Confused?

I have been a baby wearing mom since #MrK was 10 days old and absolutely love it. I attended the Mumbai sling libraries baby wearing meet when I was pregnant and even wrapped my pregnant belly. With this you must know how crazy I’m about baby wearing.

I tried to understand almost all types of carries in that meet but frankly a single meet isn’t enough plus I didn’t have my baby also to try the carriers. Though the meet up was a big help as it helped me understand the fabric and a lot of other stuff. I was left with a lot of confusion on what to buy. I thought of sharing with you on what to buy and at what age since a lot of you pm me asking about it. Please note this a non sponsored post.

You may also like to read: Baby Wearing and its Benefits

There are various types of baby carriers and each has its own uniqueness and comfort. It’s difficult to say one is the most comfortable than the other.

Let me share the different types of carriers:

1. Hybrid wrap :

The first carrier that I bought was a hybrid wrap after doing a lot of research and chewing many peoples brain (read team Mumbai sling library Yaman and Rashmi). This wrap has a stretchy tee- shirt type fabric which makes it very easy for you to wrap the baby and you need it Coz you are a beginner with a tiny squish. The stretchy fabric gives you the comfort to make good hood for the baby when asleep – most of the times they sleep when worn. The fabric is airy and suits all the climate. It’s extremely breathable and light in weight. It can turn into a blankie when not worn. So I would suggest this to people who want to wear their new born babies. I wore my son when he was 10 days old in a beautiful hybrid wrap by Anmol baby carriers. I miss wearing him in the hybrid now.

Please ignore my looks – I was a new mommy.

2. Ring sling:

This was the second carrier I bought. Personally I felt it was the most stylish slings of all. I was attracted to it. If you learn how to wear this comfortably, it will become your go to carrier as it’s really very easy to wear and undo it. It is suitable for new born up to 16-18 months depending on the weight of your child. I loved feeding MrK at home in the sling when he didn’t sleep otherwise.

3. Wrap:

A beautiful piece of fabric to wrap your baby. Again this is suitable from newborn to 3-4 years. I have seen the Mumbai sling library girls wearing their babies in the wrap at 4 years too. Wearing a new born in a wrap isn’t very easy – you need to learn it well. But it’s a good investment if you are sure you are going to wear your baby for long.

4. SSC/ Full Buckle:

SSC is used by most moms because it simply becomes too easy to wear your baby and undo them in it. Different brands have different age criteria for using the SSC. The basic starts at 4 months with an infant seat – you can use rolled towels too. This was my go to carrier simply because of the ease it gave me. There are different fabric like linen, wrap converted, canvas and more. You will have to check well as per brand which to go for or you can simply dm me if you would like any help buying it.

5. Meh – Dai

This is one beautiful innovation for moms who are not comfortable with the wrap. It’s a mid way carrier between the ssc and the wraps. It has straps like the ssc but these have to to be tied/wrapped as per your comfort. So it gives the comfort of the wrap and ssc both. I have recently got my hands on a meh dai and love it. I’m still to post pictures of the same on my social media. You can use a Meh dai from one months of age till toddler hood or beyond.

These are the basic carriers that I understand very well and shared my knowledge on the same with you people. If you still have any doubts. Feel free to leave in a comment below – I would be happy to answer them.

So, this post is a part of the #blogchatterA2Z challenge. I am going to write for the entire month of April and yes its my first time. I am totally excited and would love to see your thoughts in the comments below.

You may check the other posts from the challenge here.

 

 

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My Take on Giving Freedom to Kids

“Children should have enough freedom to be themselves-once they have learned the rules”

quotes Anna Quindlen (an American author).

The question here arises is that do we as parents follow this? Many would say a ‘YES’. But personally speaking its 50% of the ‘YES’. Why so????  Have we ever pondered on this question?  Not deeply.  Yes, but we often compare our childhood with that of our kids. I too am a parent and many a times I tend to compare the situation when I see my growing toddler.

What is freedom?? The answer for this will vary for different age groups.

  • For a child – having ample play time
  • Teenager- having ample friends time
  • Youth- having ample party time
  • An adult- it’s me time and so on……

Do we give this freedom to our kids without setting any boundaries? Do we give the freedom asked without the list of rules and regulations. No we don’t.

Many may or may not agree with me. But we are at fault when we bind our kids with strict disciplinary measures. It’s when you curb the freedom demanded children tend to break the norms set and follow their heart. It’s then that we take strict actions without understanding the reason behind it.

Our childhood was way different than our children . We had lots of play time – playing games like lock n key; kho-kho ; kubaddi; hide n seek; etc… Did we not do well academically? Getting the top rank  always was not the criteria. I don’t remember my parents ever nagging me or my siblings for marks. We were always given a positive motivating reaction. The result was that we kids worked hard on our own and passed out with flying colours. It was our own strive. Was there ‘NO COMPETITION’ then??? buy cytotec without rx IT WAS. But our parents did not let us feel the pressure .  unfortunately today parents give pressure to kids. The world is becoming a competitive one so to occupy a seat here children should be capable of taking pressure and no problem if their buy provigil from india FREEDOM IS AT STAKE.

Khevaansh in the park

What a life are we giving to our kids?

Changing with changing times is important but how you change & whether your change is having a positive impact on your surroundings is equally important.  For this parents should have a proper communication system with their kids. Tell them about the changing times; show them how much you trust them but don’t impose your fears and thoughts or for that matter your desires.

Today’s kids have a set time-table to follow , not only in schools but at home too. Once they come back from school they have a time schedule for tv; ipads; play time because they have to go for their classes- swimming/ drawing/ judo/ tennis etc… our child should be an epitome of perfection. Are we so???

Having a rhythm in life is good but a routine with no free time to be in ourself is not a good idea.

Are we giving the freedom to kids to choose an activity of their choice or prioritise the ones they like and we wish too. For that matter, don’t you think kids need that free time to be all by themselves. The outcome is ‘Jack of all traits and master of none’. If we are working parents & feel taxed that we have a list of duties ready when we step home and do not get our own space or me time, imagine how a child’s mind must be getting taxed.

Freedom is something which allows kids to take their own responsibilities.

The art of discipline should be developed from within.

Set boundaries but in a way that kids learn from them. Motivation, communication, trust all play an important role. Give gadgets to your kids and make them understand the pros and cons of its over use. Let the child decide for himself/ herself. ( remember: you cannot use it as a tool. When you give a time limit follow it. But when you have work and you don’t want ur chid to disturb you, you give the gadget then the child loses the significance of the lesson taught and freedom is taken for granted). (Gadget is just an example – I am no gadget mommy BTW)

Allow your growing teens to mingle with their friends but keep a tab on their group. Don’t be so complacent in expressing yourself modern that you feel you don’t need to divulge into your child’s life as you represent a modern time mom. That’s not modernism. Such behaviour gives rise to incidents of kids murdering; committing suicide or molestation; cyber abuse and so on….

Be a Role model

When you are out of the house call up your child/children and inform that you have reached the venue safely. Share few details. In return inculcate the same habit in your child. This way the child will not feel that you are keeping a check on his/her whereabouts and your worry is also sorted. It’s a two way communication.

Similarly discuss your friends with your child rather than asking them about their friends. Children tend to speak on their own. This type of freedom of expression will eventually build the power of thinking and understanding the right & wrong; good or bad.

Keep some family time together to play or dine together or holiday. Remember the idea here is not to give time to kids but to give quality time. Keep your gadgets away and spend time talking ; playing ; swimming with kids. When children see their parents making them feel important they learn to reciprocate. But in today’s time we take our kids for a holiday with their gadgets as we need our space too. So we then can’t complain if our kids want their own space and own freedom and ask us to allow them to live their life the way they wish too. They want freedom.

We need to remember

enter site “It is not what you do for your children, but what you have taught them to do for themselves that will make them successful human beings”.

 


This blog post is a part of #LetsDiscussFreedom Blogathon. I would like to thank Veena from thereadingmomster  for introducing me. I would now like to introduce Alpana from mothersgurukul and suggest you to read her views on the prompt, ‘What Does  Freedom Mean To You’.

 

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My Mom Was Right

Since ages, we have been hearing maa hamesha Sahi hoti hai (mom is always right). As a child I grew up hearing this sentence and always thought what crap. But as time passed by I only realised how right she was when she said things.

One patent dialogue by my mom is unforgettable “ Shadi hogi tab pata chalega.” (You will realise when you get married).

I always argued I have always got the best in life and sasural (in laws) is going to be no different. Thankfully, I have the best sasural but that dialogue is still in my mind. Yes, I realise now how a home maker feels. There were times my mom cooked food and we simply said we don’t want to eat because the cooked food was not our taste or we ate out and forgot to inform mom. (By we I mean my brother and me). Now I understand how it feels when my husband or any other family member does that.

Her second favourite dialogue was “Bache bade karna aassan nai.” ( Its not easy to bring up children).

This is like a fact I agree to 6778890% . Yes, motherhood is beautiful but it’s not easy. I realise now how bad my mom might have felt when I argued with her in situations where she was right or disrespected her. I realise it thinking how would I feel if my son would do this to me. Each day of bringing up a child is totally different and in itself a new experience.

You may also like to read Breastfeeding – How to get it right? 

The lesson learnt is no matter what you feel & whatever is your age ; never take your mother for granted & never ever ignore their favourite dialogues coz they come out to be true (LOL) .After all experience counts.

“Wisdom lies in the right use of knowledge” quotes – Charles Spurgeon

This post is a part of a blog train organised by Elina Wadia where 20 Indian moms have some together to write on how their own mothers were right! To read her article on the same topic click here.

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Breastfeeding – How to Get it Right?

Breastfeeding is a beautiful experience and I always wanted to breastfeed my baby. I am thankful to God as I never faced any issues in producing milk. But there are moms who do face such issues.

Each mom who faces issues with producing milk might have googled n number of times to find what can work for producing more milk.

I am no doctor or nutritionist to suggest you what can work for you. But I would like to share what worked for me. This should help you stay positive and give it your best.

  • Talking to the baby:

As soon as I got pregnant with K, I started talking to him. Though I never got any response, it was beautiful time we spent with each other. Post bath when I applied moisturiser on my pregnant belly was the time I never missed talking to him. This is when I kept saying to both the baby and me that s/he was going to be exclusively breastfed for first 6 months of life and post that till we can manage. This doesn’t help produce milk but it made me strong each day and I was more positive.

  • Eating lots of protein:

I had a lot of protein rich food during my pregnancy. My doctor had given me a protein powder which I hated but he warned me saying I will have to be admitted to take protein injections. For God sake, who wants to go and stay in a hospital, I better take my protein powder. This protein powder went on till K was majorly on breastmilk .i.e. till 9 months of life.

Read more pointers here.

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5 parenting learning of this year

 


Its been only 17 months that I have been a mom but parenting has taught me a lot personally. Everyday experiences has helped me improve each passing day in my parenting journey too.

I thought of sharing with you all this years learnings:

1. Be Patient:

All through my life I was an impatient being. Just can’t think of waiting and going slow. I want everything done quick and fast. This cute little baby has taught me you need to be patient to deal with me 🤦🏻‍♀️. I will fall sick, I will throw tantrums and there is no way u can get through this. Patience is the only way out.

2. Be soft:

There are times when I have given up and actually yelled and told my boy, ‘I told you not to do it, why did you?’ This has come back to me as he also yells when he sees us yelling. So to teach him to be soft I will have to be a role model. (Kindly don’t judge me for this #momslife)

3. Spend quality time:

Yes, this is the most important part of life. He has demanded that time from me and now I see to it that I give him minimum one hour of undivided attention to him. I am also trying to have some good quality time with DH.

4. Moving outdoors:

There are days when I feel too lazy and don’t want to step out of the house. But this little guy pulls me to the parks and this leaves me fresh and energetic. He has taught me how important it is to breathe outside air.

You may also like to read COMFORT OR COURAGE – what to choose when travelling with a baby?

5. Follow a rhythm :

Mr.K has a rhythm and does everything everyday around the same time. When there is change he gets disturbed and this has taught me how our body moves into a rhythm and how difficult it is to accept a change.

6. Learning happens with mess:

Over the course of 17 months, I have learnt that children love doing mess and they learn a lot through it. Mr.K loves eating food by himself. This creates a lot of mess but he has almost learnt to eat with spoon. I am sure he will master it very soon.

You may follow us on Instagram or Facebook to witness this.

7. Let them get accustomed to:

Kids love going outdoors. There have been times when we have avoided restaurants and instead ordered food at home. Reason being he never allowed us to sit comfortably and eat. But some recent visits to the restaurants have made me feel that the more often I take him, the more accustomed he will be to the environment. This goes for social gatherings too, the only thing is I have to keep running behind him.

You may also like to read Road trip with babies : Tips and Tricks

What has been your learning this year?

 

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Windmill Festival – Save the Date

Are you ready for some fun this December?

Then here you go. 

SAVE THE DATE for the Windmill Festival  is here to add to some fun.

Windmill Festival – ‘India’s First International Children’s Festival’ is back. The second season of the festival is scheduled to be held on  December 16th and 17th, 2017 at Jio Garden, BKC in Mumbai. The festival is a joint initiative between Event Capital (a Laqshya Media Group Company) and Tribe Asia. Aimed at children of all age groups, Windmill Festival has something to offer for everyone – from toddlers to teens and even their parents! The festival is co-powered by India Gate Brown Basmati Rice and held in association with Asian Paints Kids’ World (Décor Partner) Avon cycles (Associate Partner), Hypercity (Retail Partner) and Sony YAY!(Happiness Partner).

Festival tickets: Tickets are live on Bookmyshow |
Child – Rs 600 per day
Adult – Rs 300 per day
Free entry for children below the age of 2

You may visit their website for more details here.

 

The two-day children’s festival will see special performances by artist and TV personality Rob and singers Arjun KanungoDarshan Raval, Akasa SinghBhavya Pandit, Vipin Heero and Raaga Trippin. The festival will also include a day care centre, various play areas, a petting zoo, centre for robotics, a curated section for art, craft, science, sport & music workshops, a concert arena, sports arena, and much more; all categorised to suit the needs of different age groups of children. In addition to all these offerings, toons from Sony YAY!, India’s leading kids entertainment channel – Guru Aur Bhole will also be seen engaging with kids at the festival.

Windmill Festival is specially curated for urban families who are always on the look-out for the next opportunity to spend quality time with their children. While the festival has no age limit, the activities are curated to suit the 0-3, 4-7 and 8-14 age group. The key objective of the festival is to give the urban child an outlet to be creative, gain information and get a recreational experience along with an avenue to spend quality time with their parents and friends in an outdoor setting.

Speaking about the genesis of the festival, Mr. Swaroop Banerjee, CEO, Event Capital, said, “The concept of Windmill Festival is something you’ve never seen in India before. We have curated over 50 workshops for children to sample robotics, aeronautics, comic book making, puppetry, storytelling, pottery, charcoal painting and so much more. We want the child to discover his/her innermost passion and work towards developing it. In addition to the workshops, we have a music stage with performances curated for families. We also have a first of its kind petting zoo where children can pet farm animals.”

I am going to be there with my family. Hope to see you all there having some family time.

A big shout out to the Windmill Festival’s community partner JAMMS. Do follow them on social media Facebook, twitterInstagram and become a part of an awesome mommy community.

You may also like to read Socialising after becoming a Parent.

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Home safety- #HowSafeAreYou

As mother and a home maker, home safety is of utmost importance to me. I’m sure so it is for you all too coz home is where the heart is.
Your personal safety depends on you and so does your home safety.
I am sure all of us wants the best safety for our homes and this drives us to get the best safety measures for our homes.
The first and foremost thing that comes to our mind when we talk about home safety is robbers/burglars? The second thing that will come to our mind will be Locks or may be vice Versa.
Checkout these videos launched by Godrej Locking Solutions and systems to know the psyche of a robber along with some tips on safeguarding homes from future attack.

In India when we talk about Locks the first brand that comes to our mind is Godrej – a 120 year old leading manufacturer of innovative locking solutions.

home safety day

on 15th Novemeber, 2017 Godrej Locking Solutions launched a novel campaign #HowsafeAreYou. I attended the panel discussion at their Hubble office, which was a part of the campaign. On this day, the brand also declared this day to be observed as Home Safety day in India.
The main idea behind the campaign and the panelist’s is to create awareness amongst people on home safety and stay alert always.

Amongst the panelist were: 

1. Dr. Kaminidevi BhoirHonorary Psychiatric Counsellor for Mumbai Police
 
2. Vivek Agrawal, veteran crime journalist and author
 
3. Shyam Motwani, EVP and Head of Business – Godrej Locking Solutions and Systems
 
4. Prakash N. Borgaonkar, Western Region Head of HelpAge India and a victim of theft over the psyche of a robber.
 
5. Supreeth Sudhakaran, Victim of burglary.

 

Some pointers discussed at the panel: 

 
1. Be prepared with the actions to be taken.
 
2. Be alert who’s around you, what’s happening around you. 
 
3. Robbers thinking starts where our thinking stops, (you may see this in the video). So try and think out of the box when you are thinking about home safety.
4. Learn from others experiences.
5. Support the police by being alert and informing them if you seek anything wrong around you.
6. Senior citizens are the major victims of such accidents. Many senior citizens stay alone and don’t have anyone to talk to, they feel lonely and slowly as per Prakash Borgaonkar they start feeling isolated and start forgetting things. Robbers take advantage of this and make them their target.
 
7. According to Kaminidevi Bhoir, robbers gets an urge to steal. The act of robbers is a disease and is called Kleptomania. A robber has no conscience while commuting such an act.
8. Vivek Agarwal shared stories of crime and robbery’s with us, where in a 8 month old child was also not left to murder. He said that the robbers are equally scared during the process and are instructed by their team members that if you see any danger, simply finish the danger and hence the infant was also not left. He also shared that there are some woman with their babies moving around on roads asking for clothes. You may bring them home as courtesy and give them clothes. But these women are checking your houses in the mean while and they make signs outside your house either a Trishul or a Swastik, which implies that your house is going to be the victim soon.
9. Supreeth Sudhakaran expressed how he thought it’s all karma, till he actually became a victim of the burglary. He gave us some advises too like not to give your keys to watchman or neighbor. Do not keep you keys in plant pot or under the dust mat outside your houses. Use the best technology of Locks and be safe.
10. Mr. Motwani also enunciated about the best if technology they use and how they are progressing each day with new inventions. He also shared that the price of the highest form of Locks will reduce if the demand increases giving example of the LED lights, urging us to buy the best Locks and not sacrificing on home Safety.
There has been a lot of learning in this session. I propose to all my readers here get in action and be safe than sorry. Be alert abd mindful.
So together with Godrej Locks and our own measures let’s take this ahead and make our homes the safest place.
I have shared some live videos on my Facebook page of the event. You may like to see them here.
you may also like to read Being a Woman of India today.
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COMFORT OR COURAGE – what to choose when travelling with a baby?

I am a social being. I would go mad if I had not meet people. To keep my urge of socialising going, I meet people and travel to places with friends and family.

We all know parenting dramatically changes our life. However, we need to keep it going and   so we planned to travel with our boy this vacation and noticed how the plans kept changing, keeping him in mind.

Planning a travel is so much fun. We had our vacation planned up quite well. I had gathered a lot of courage and planned an 8/10 hours of road trip to Gujarat. The couple who were accompanying us came with one other exciting travel plan.

The new plan was to travel to one of the cold places in the North. This excited me as I have never witnessed mountains with snow or for that matter even a snow fall. I wanted to go but I was constantly thinking if I will be able to do a comfortable vacation with my boy to such a place.

I asked several friends and took their view points. Most of them asked me to go ahead with the plan. Some asked me to think over the travelling time and cold temperature there. This left me thinking.  After considering suggestions of my friends and a final discussion with my husband we finally gave up. I didn’t have the courage to travel with my 1 year old to a place so cold and neither I wanted to travel with him in the ghats.

We chose comfort over courage this time and didn’t go ahead with the plan. But thankfully we worked out something and are travelling to Udaipur now.

Why I chose to go to Udaipur?
  • It is a plateau. So, travelling will be easier as compared to the mountains.
  • the climate of the place when I visit will be quite pleasant, so that’s an advantage.
  • It’s quite close to Mumbai, so travelling time won’t be much.
  • Travelling is never done free. Some good offers attracted us to visit the city.

 

So at the end, you can choose either courage or comfort when travelling with a baby.

You may also like to read Road trip with babies : Tips and Tricks

I am taking part in The Write Tribe Problogger October 2017 Blogging Challenge.

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My Conception News Story

Mr. K took good time to select us as his parents. Yes, we waited for 22 months before we could conceive this little man. 

While, I was going to the doctor and doing follow ups to conceive naturally, there was a time when the doctor said you may have to get a IVF or IUI. My husband and I were disheartened.  But we thought this way or that way, having a baby was more important. Since we had some trips and a wedding lined up, we thought we would start the process after we finish these.

 

But, God had drawn different map of life for us. I returned from my trips and had a strong feeling that I had conceived. My breasts were sore but the news was not definite. I missed my period. I was excited to check if I was pregnant. But I didn’t as I had failed and cried so many times before. More than me, my husband didn’t want me to check.

This girl wanted to dance in full swing in an event but what if I was pregnant. Its better to check and be safe.I did the home pregnancy test early morning and to my happiness, I saw two faint lines. I came back to my room and slept next to my husband and was thinking of different ways to share the news with him.

 

We woke up and got in to our normal routine. After bath, when he entered the room to change, I couldn’t control but showed him the pregnancy kit, and he didn’t follow a thing but asked me, “What? I had told you, don’t do the test, why did you bla bla bla..” I replied it shows too lines which means we have conceived and we were pregnant. He jumped with happiness, he danced for total 5 mins. I still remember the elation on his face.

 

The twist in the story comes now. We went to the doctor and told him, we had conceived and here is the pregnancy kit that shows it. The doctor asked us to repeat the test and the result came opposite, showing no pregnancy. In my heart, I was sure, the test at the doctor was wrong and that I have conceived but somewhere I was nervous. The doctor asked me to get the blood test done and told me he would call me if at all the report showed pregnancy.

 

I had my routine day. I didn’t have the time to check my phone, while I was at work. but as soon as I left from work and checked my phone, I saw a missed call from the doctor. With bated breath, I called the doctor and received the happy news, I was waiting for.

 

The much awaited phase had arrived in our lives bringing in loads of luv n joy . The feeling of parenthood is difficult to be pen down . It’s a joy that is cherished in your heart and the memories of that joy are always as fresh as a daisy. When we as parents become old n our children adult ; this experience when shared seems like a moment one has just experienced. This is God’s creation.

You may also like to read my conception story Already in my heart someday in my arms: A story of conception

I am taking part in The Write Tribe Problogger October 2017 Blogging Challenge.

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Socialising after becoming a Parent

If you read my post regularly you might know that I had a beautiful pregnancy. I worked, partied  ( the decent way) till the end of my pregnancy. In fact even four days before delivery I was out socialising with people.

Once,I gave birth to my little boy, I was enjoying my motherhood eternally. I loved changing diapers and nappies every hour. Breast feeding was in itself a beautiful experience.

Few days passed by, our friends started calling my husband and me to join them for dinners and outings. But, we were not prepared, we were not sure to leave our baby home with my mother in law. Although I was sure that she would take care of him just the way she did for her sons and daughter.

We kept denying and saying no to our friends, but somewhere even I was craving to go and meet people. What made me worried was, is motherhood an end to our personal life? Is it the terminal to my social life? But I gave back an answer to myself, I am not going to allow this to happen. I don’t want motherhood to effect my social life.

Soon, we managed things and started meeting people outside. Although we never said a yes to people saying we would join, but always kept the decision to last minute.

So how did we manage?
  1. We left home once, K slept for the night.
  2. I pumped some milk and kept it in the bottle, so that my mil could feed him in my absence in case he wakes up.
  3. We would keep the meetings short.
  4. We always met friends at a place close to our house.
  5. Once my baby completed 4 months of age, I started taking him along with me wherever I could.
  6. I preferred meetings my friends at someone’s place for the comfort of the baby.
  7. Baby carriers was a huge help to me while I shopped in malls.

How did you socialise after having a baby?

You may also like to read A Mom’s NostalgiaMy experience of attending a wedding with an infant.

I am taking part in The Write Tribe Problogger October 2017 Blogging Challenge.

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